Guide to Making Friends
TLDR To making friends guaranteed to work (with Mondo!)
- YOU MAKE FRIENDS THROUGH OSMOSIS! Literally! SHOW UP OFTEN. EVEN IF YOU DONT TALK. Be present. People will notice you. People will talk to you. If you don't talk, it may take quite awhile, be patient! The more you talk and show up, the more popular you will be. I promise. Thats the #1 secret...
- INSERT YOURSELF INTO THE CONVERSATION! Even if you're a mute. You can still do textbox, ASL, body language, etc. This may be taboo IRL but it is PREFERRED in VR! This might help? Also if you're autistic this might be a good read.
- I hate the cliché, but BE YOSELF. LET THEM TITTIES BE FREE! (Wholesomely of course)
- BE NICE & CONSIDERATE! Don't talk over others when they're talking, and give the other people a chance to talk. Say the thing you wanna say when there's a pause in conversation. Help others when you can! Ask for help when you want/need it!
- Respond OPENLY without making things awkward! Check out: How To Get People To Talk To Me More?
- Be positive! Not toxically positive, but don't be a debbie downer! People like to be around people that are more upbeat! Trauma dumping to a stranger who you want to make your friend will get you a guaranteed ghosting!
- Fake it 'til you make it. I hate this phrase. I also hate that it works.
- Remember to post about YOURSELF before hopping in the deep end of convos! Remember your friendship levels!
- TLDR of the TLDR: The more we know about you, the more friends you'll get, so throw down all your interests (in the appropriate channels xD) [And be tactful about it in VC]
- That's it. That's TL;DR how you make friends.
FRONTLOAD YOUR WEIRDNESS! (An article borrowed from Mark Manson)
Stop trying to be "cool" to get people to like you. It’s a waste of time.
When I met my wife, I spent our first five minutes in a loud nightclub at 3 AM explaining the nuances of Russian grammar. It was the least "smooth" move possible, but it was the most honest version of who I am.
She didn’t leave. That’s how I knew.
The Lesson
Most people spend the first six months of a relationship (or business partnership, friendship, etc) performing. They hide their quirks, polish their edges, and "play the game." in an attempt to not be "too much".
All they’re doing is delaying the inevitable.
Why you should WANT be "too much" immediately:
It’s a Filter: Anyone scared off by your intensity or your odd interests was never going to last anyway.
No Maintenance: If you start with a performance, you have to keep performing. If you start as yourself, you’re already done.
The Right People Stay: The goal isn't to be liked by everyone; it's to be found by the people who actually value your brand of crazy.
The Bottom Line
It’s better to be disliked for who you are than liked for someone you’re pretending to be.
Front Load your weird. The right people will stay.
Still having trouble?
- Roll up your sleeves and check out: HELP! Making Friends Is Difficult
- Read How To Get People To Talk To Me More?
- Also if you're gaming orientated... What are friendship levels?
