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Overly Enthusiastic

Someone's Alt: They know we're hyper and like it, and tries to overdo it. Usually as a newbie, being hyper in a server would be a bad thing, if the server is already not hyper.
Dominating The Conversation: If they're super hyper off the bat, and aren't someone's alt, they may be someone that's more of a, uh, attention whore. They might dominate the conversation when a group are trying to talk, not let anyone get a word in, and just make the vibes very uncomfortable.
Young: It could mean they are very young and their natural state is hyper. This inherently isn't sus, but since we're generally 18+, it would be a good thing to look out for for people lying about their age.
Personality Disorder: Some people, particularly in the neurodivergent community... Uh, *Raises hand*, may be unaware about how appropriate it is to be enthusiastic! In this case, it might be best to try and educate them on the social do's and dont's of being enthusiastic. There is a time and a place, but it is not all the time. :3

Lazy: Usually denotes someone that isn't super interested, or doesn't like to put effort into things. Usually they will just lurk in the background without being a bother. That's okay! <3
Privledged: They might come out later to say "Noone likes me!" but never puts in any effort to get to know others and expects others to like them without telling them anything about themselves.
Shy: Similar to privlidged, they might also expect others to like them without putting in any effort, BUT they aren't aware that people need to know their interests before they want to be friends. Educate them on "Hey! Tell us the things you like, and people will like you! Even if you -think- it's weird, the right people will find you :3"

Edgelord: If they are constantly talking about edgey things... Death, suicidal, "woe is me", "I will never have a gf/bf", etc, then that is also suspicious! These people usually are looking for someone to solve their problem instead of face it themselves. We can TRY to help them, but it often will end with them being pissed because we told them how to solve their problem, but they aren't willing to change or put in the effort.

Chaotic (Evil? Neutral?): Sometimes random is fun, but occasionally, random is.... too random. It may be funny at first, but it can quickly dive into being offensive or malicious towards others, even if unintentionly.

Attacking: If people are attacking eachother in any capacity, that is not okay. We are adults and are expected to talk over problems and not attack eachother. There's a great picture about how to handle a disagreement, and at the end of the day, we can agree to disagree. This is NOT a politics server, and we are not here to argue over laws and shit. We're here to make friends and have fun.

Public Shaming: If people ARE having a genuine disagreement that might go on for awhile, it's generally wise to move it civilly to DMs instead of continue in public. If people are calling each other out in public, it's not great, and COULD mean bad character. Sometimes in the heat of the moment, it happens though, so don't use this as a 100% indicator.

Flipflopper: Someone may be in denial if they are constantly saying they ARE Something but actions prove otherwise. Like if their name is supercutefluffylovesnuggleball but they keep being mean to others. Actions speak louder than words, and they may need professional help to actually change their ways if that is their true intent.

Judgmental: A newbie may come in and not approve of our lifestyle. "I Hate hyper people! I thought you were adults!" or "Ew, are you ALL lesbians here?" Those types of people are generally not going to have a good time in our community.

Negative Nancy: Generally people that are going to be successful here aren't going to be negative nancies... "I hate cats!" "I do not like spaghetti, it's gross!" It's okay to express a feeling that IS negative, but usually when they are spouting it constantly RIGHT off the bat, nothing good will come from it. They are usually unable to respect different opinions than theirs and may fight their fellow spaghetti lovers.

The Lewd: We are like the sims. There is an invisible friendship meter on everyone, and you gotta hit certain levels for certain things to be okay. Someone coming in and off the bat posting half naked pictures of themselves in a mostly wholesome server is not great, it comes off as thirsty. Those sorts of things are more reserved for people who are longterm members and wanting to share their body as a form of art, not a form of "PLS FUCK ME".

Just Sus: People spouting off really... unconventional things off the bad is also not great. We had a couple users, we joke about all the time, that came in with an avatar of a dog that said "I love peeing" and immediately started asking EVERYONE in the room if they knew what he loved doing. After like the 6th time asking, Mondo turned around and said "...peeing?". He stared at her, turned around, and kept asking others. He did not last long. The second, was someone that joined the server and immediately started asking everyone if they were a minor. This is a huge red flag that someone is either going to be so lewd that they can't help themselves around minors and will do something bad, or is specifically seeking out minors, uh, to do something bad. I get that some people do the "Minors, DNI" sort of thing, but at a casual conversation event in a mostly wholesome server, it was very suspicious. Since then, we have went 18+ just to avoid these sorts of issues, but it is still very suspicious as to why people NEED to know right off the bat.

Change Of Heart: Occasionally old people will start to be malicious, and it's probably either because something they have been ignoring either internally or externally has come to a head, or something happened that they were unable to cope with. These are the most difficult to handle IMO because we are all so emotionally involved, it's hard to take a step back and look at the situation objectively. We may really love the person, and may give them WAY more chances than we should, but after a point, we have to say enough is enough, and they need help that we cannot provide to heal.

Unable to accept feedback: Sometimes we will have someone in server that's decent enough, but will fuck something up, and we gotta step in and say "Hey that wasn't okay!". Occasionally, they cannot accept that they have fucked up, and will explode and fight back, going even to say that the incident never even happened. Gaslighting, anyone? These situations are also hard because we are emotionally involved.