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=Making Friends 101=
= TLDR To making friends guaranteed to work (with Mondo!)=
* YOU MAKE FRIENDS THROUGH OSMOSIS! Literally! SHOW UP OFTEN. EVEN IF YOU DONT TALK. Be present. People will notice you. People will talk to you. If you don't talk, it may take quite awhile, be patient! The more you talk and show up, the more popular you will be. I promise. Thats the #1 secret...


By following these tips, you can strengthen existing friendships and make new ones that are meaningful and fulfilling. There are many ways to make and develop close friendships. Remember friendship is a two-way street! Both you AND your friend need to BOTH give and take to have a successful relationship!


*Be open and approachable: Smile and make eye contact with people you meet. This can help you seem more friendly and welcoming.
* INSERT YOURSELF INTO THE CONVERSATION! Even if you're a mute. You can still do textbox, ASL, body language, etc. This may be taboo IRL but it is PREFERRED in VR! <B><U> [https://www.artoflikability.com/blog/how-to-properly-insert-yourself-into-a-conversation This might help?]</B></U>  Also <B><U> [https://www.reddit.com/r/AutismInWomen/comments/19dwk3q/trouble_inserting_self_in_conversations/ if you're autistic]</B></U>  this might be a good read.
* I hate the cliché, but BE YOSELF. LET THEM TITTIES BE FREE! (Wholesomely of course)
* BE NICE & CONSIDERATE! Don't talk over others when they're talking, and give the other people a chance to talk. Say the thing you wanna say when there's a pause in conversation. Help others when you can! Ask for help when you want/need it!
* Respond OPENLY without making things awkward! Check out: <B><U> [[How To Get People To Talk To Me More?]]  </B></U>
* Be positive! Not toxically positive, but don't be a debbie downer! People like to be around people that are more upbeat!
* Fake it til you make it. I hate this phrase. I also hate that it works.
* Remember to post about YOURSELF before hopping in the deep end! Remember your <B><U> [[What are friendship levels?|friendship levels!]]</B></U>


*Show genuine interest in others: Ask questions and listen to what people have to say. This will help you build a connection with them.


*Participate in activities you enjoy: Join clubs, organizations, or teams that align with your interests. This will give you the opportunity to meet people who share similar hobbies and passions.


*Volunteer or get involved in your community: Not only will this help you meet new people, but it's also a great way to give back and make a positive impact on your community.


*Be a good listener: Pay attention to what your friends have to say and show them that you value their thoughts and opinions.
* TLDR of the TLDR: The more we know about you, the more friends you'll get, so throw down all your interests (in the appropriate channels xD) [And be tactful about it in VC]
* That's it. That's TL;DR how you make friends.


*Be reliable and dependable: Make an effort to follow through on your commitments and be there for your friends when they need you.


*Show interest in your friends' lives: Ask your friends about their interests, families, and other aspects of their lives and show that you are genuinely interested in getting to know them better.
=FRONTLOAD YOUR WEIRDNESS! (An article borrowed from Mark Manson)=
​Stop trying to be "cool" to get people to like you. It’s a waste of time.


*Be open and honest: Building trust is an important part of any close friendship. Be open and honest with your friends, and they will be more likely to do the same with you.


*Make time for your friends: Nurture your friendships by setting aside time to spend with your friends, whether it's meeting up in person or simply chatting on the phone or online.
​When I met my wife, I spent our first five minutes in a loud nightclub at 3 AM explaining the nuances of Russian grammar. It was the least "smooth" move possible, but it was the most honest version of who I am.
​She didn’t leave. That’s how I knew.


*Pay attention to nonverbal cues: People's body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice can all give clues as to how they are feeling and what they are comfortable with. Paying attention to these cues can help you to respect others' boundaries.


*Ask for consent: If you are unsure about whether it is okay to do something or share something with someone, ask for their consent. This can include asking for permission to give a hug, touch someone, or share personal information.
==​The Lesson==
Most people spend the first six months of a relationship (or business partnership, friendship, etc)  performing.  They hide their quirks, polish their edges, and "play the game." in an attempt to not be "too much".


*Respect others' privacy: Everyone has a right to privacy, and it is important to respect others' wishes when it comes to personal space and information.


*Be mindful of others' feelings: Consider how your words and actions might affect others. If you think that something you are about to do or say might hurt someone's feelings, it might be best to avoid it.
All they’re doing is delaying the inevitable.




=If you're still having issues.... reevaluate the problem - "If everywhere you go it smells like shit, maybe it's time to check your own shoes."=
​Why you should WANT be "too much" immediately:
[[image:69.png|right]]If you're having issues making friends everywhere you go, consider that you may be contributing to the problem, <B> even if it is completely unintentional.</B> As the saying goes, "If everywhere you go it smells like shit, maybe it's time to check your own shoes." It is always a good idea to take personal responsibility for our own actions and surroundings, and to consider whether there might be something that you can do to improve the situation. If there are aspects of your behavior or personality that are causing difficulties in your relationships with others, it might be helpful to consider making some changes. Here are a few things you can try:


*Focus on being a kind and genuine person. Try putting the wants and needs of the people you are interested in befriending above your own in a healthy manner. Could you be coming off poorly by appearing to be selfish, inconsiderate, or offputting?


*Reflect on your behavior: Think about how your actions and words might be affecting the way others perceive you. Are there things you can do differently in order to be more likable? Could you be trauma dumping, negative, or being lewd to others and it scares them off?
​It’s a Filter: Anyone scared off by your intensity or your odd interests was never going to last anyway.


*Practice empathy: Try to put yourself in other people's shoes and consider how your actions might impact them. This can help you be more understanding and considerate of others. Even if unintentional? Something might look right from your side but wrong from theirs.


*Communicate openly and honestly: If you're having trouble connecting with others, try being more open and honest about your thoughts and feelings. This can help build trust and understanding in your relationships. People love to share stories! Do you come off as uninteresting or boring because you don't share your stories?
​No Maintenance: If you start with a performance, you have to keep performing. If you start as yourself, you’re already done.


*Seek feedback: Ask a trusted friend or family member for their honest opinion about how you can improve your relationships with others. They may have insights that can help you make positive changes. Don't lash out when people tell you what you could improve on! They're trying to help!


=Things to watch out for=
​The Right People Stay: The goal isn't to be liked by everyone; it's to be found by the people who actually value your brand of crazy.


*Lack of respect: A healthy friendship involves mutual respect. If you or your friend doesn't respect eachothers boundaries or doesn't treat eachother with kindness and consideration, this could be a red flag.


*Dishonesty: Trust is an important foundation for any friendship. If you or your friend is not being honest with eachother, this could be a red flag.
==​The Bottom Line==
It’s better to be disliked for who you are than liked for someone you’re pretending to be.


*Manipulation: If you or your friend is trying to manipulate or control each other, this is not a healthy dynamic and could be a red flag.


*Constant negativity: While it's normal for friends to have disagreements or to vent to each other about problems, if a friendship is consistently negative and draining, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship.
​Front Load your weird. The right people will stay.


*Lack of effort: If you or your friend is not making an effort to spend time with eachother or stay in touch, this could be a red flag.


=Making Friends 101, a more formal guide (with Chatgpt!)=


==Fixing Lack of Respect==
By following these tips, you can strengthen existing friendships and make new ones that are meaningful and fulfilling. There are many ways to make and develop close friendships. Remember friendship is a two-way street! Both you AND your friend need to BOTH give and take to have a successful relationship!
Respecting your friends is an important part of maintaining healthy and positive relationships. Here are a few ways you can show respect to your friends:


*Treat them with kindness and consideration: Show your friends that you care about them and value their feelings by being kind and considerate towards them. This includes being patient, understanding, and supportive.
*Be open and approachable: Smile and make eye contact with people you meet. This can help you seem more friendly and welcoming.


*Listen actively: Pay attention when your friends are speaking and show that you are interested in what they have to say. Avoid interrupting or talking over them, and try to really listen to their thoughts and feelings.
*Show genuine interest in others: Ask questions and listen to what people have to say. This will help you build a connection with them.


*Be reliable and dependable: Follow through on your commitments and be there for your friends when they need you.
*Participate in activities you enjoy: Join clubs, organizations, or teams that align with your interests. This will give you the opportunity to meet people who share similar hobbies and passions.


*Respect their boundaries: It's important to respect your friends' personal space and privacy. If they are not comfortable with certain topics or activities, respect their wishes.
*Volunteer or get involved in your community: Not only will this help you meet new people, but it's also a great way to give back and make a positive impact on your community.


*Apologize when necessary: If you make a mistake or do something that hurts your friend, apologize sincerely and make an effort to make amends.
*Be a good listener: Pay attention to what your friends have to say and show them that you value their thoughts and opinions.


*Be reliable and dependable: Make an effort to follow through on your commitments and be there for your friends when they need you.


==Fixing Dishonesty==
*Show interest in your friends' lives: Ask your friends about their interests, families, and other aspects of their lives and show that you are genuinely interested in getting to know them better.


Honesty is an important part of any healthy relationship, including friendships. Here are a few tips for being more honest with your friends:
*Be open and honest: Building trust is an important part of any close friendship. Be open and honest with your friends, and they will be more likely to do the same with you.


*Be open and transparent: Share your thoughts and feelings with your friends and be open to hearing theirs in return. This can help to build trust and strengthen your friendships.
*Make time for your friends: Nurture your friendships by setting aside time to spend with your friends, whether it's meeting up in person or simply chatting on the phone or online.


*Don't hold back: It can be tempting to hide certain aspects of ourselves or to downplay our feelings, but being honest and authentic is an important part of any healthy relationship.
*Pay attention to nonverbal cues: People's body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice can all give clues as to how they are feeling and what they are comfortable with. Paying attention to these cues can help you to respect others' boundaries.


*Practice active listening: When your friends are speaking, really listen to what they are saying and try to understand their perspective. This can help to foster honesty and open communication.
*Ask for consent: If you are unsure about whether it is okay to do something or share something with someone, ask for their consent. This can include asking for permission to give a hug, touch someone, or share personal information.


*Don't be afraid to say "I don't know": It's okay to not have all the answers or to admit when you don't know something. By being honest about your limitations, you can build trust and strengthen your friendships.
*Respect others' privacy: Everyone has a right to privacy, and it is important to respect others' wishes when it comes to personal space and information.


*Apologize when necessary: If you make a mistake or do something that hurts your friend, be honest and apologize for your actions.
*Be mindful of others' feelings: Consider how your words and actions might affect others. If you think that something you are about to do or say might hurt someone's feelings, it might be best to avoid it.
 
 
 
==Fixing Manipulation==
*Acknowledge your behavior: The first step in changing any behavior is to recognize that it is a problem. Take some time to reflect on your actions and how they might have affected your friends.
 
*Consider the motivations behind your behavior: Are you manipulating your friends to get what you want, or are you trying to control their actions or feelings? Understanding the motivations behind your behavior can help you to see how it might be harmful to your friendships.
 
*Practice empathy: Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. By practicing empathy, you can better understand how your friends might be feeling and how your actions might be impacting them.
 
*Communicate openly and honestly: Instead of manipulating your friends, try to communicate openly and honestly with them. Share your thoughts and feelings and listen to theirs in return.
 
*Seek support: If you are struggling to stop manipulating your friends, it might be helpful to seek the support of a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional. They can help you to work through your motivations and find healthier ways to communicate and interact with others.
 
 
 
==Fixing Negativity==
 
By taking these steps, you can work to shift your mindset and reduce negativity in your friendships. It may take some time and effort, but with practice and self-care, you can learn to be more positive in your relationships.
 
*Identify the root cause of your negativity: Are you feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or unhappy in other areas of your life? Sometimes, negative thoughts and behaviors in one area of our lives can spill over into our relationships. By identifying the root cause of your negativity, you can start to address the underlying issue.
 
*Practice gratitude: Focusing on the things that you are grateful for can help to shift your mindset from negative to positive. Try keeping a gratitude journal where you write down a few things that you are thankful for each day.
 
*Seek support: If you are struggling with negative thoughts and feelings, it can be helpful to talk to someone about it. Consider reaching out to a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional for support.
 
*Find healthy ways to cope: It's normal to have negative thoughts and feelings from time to time, but it's important to find healthy ways to cope with them. This could include practicing relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing or meditation, or finding healthy outlets for stress, such as exercise or creativity.
 
 
==Fixing Spending Time With Your Pals==
By following these tips, you can make an effort to spend time with your friend and strengthen your relationship. Remember, friendships take time and effort to maintain, but the rewards of having close, supportive friendships are well worth it.
 
*Make plans: Set aside specific times to meet up with your friend, whether it's for a coffee, a meal, or a leisure activity.
 
*Keep in touch: Even if you can't meet up in person, you can still stay connected by texting, messaging, or chatting on the phone.
 
*Be open to different activities: Your friend might have different interests or preferences, so be open to trying new things or doing activities that your friend enjoys.
 
*Be flexible: Life can be busy, and plans can change. Be open to adjusting your plans or rescheduling if necessary.
 
*Show interest in your friend's life: Ask your friend about their interests, their day, or other aspects of their life. This can help to create opportunities for conversation and connection.


*It's OKAY to be a low maintenance friend. Some people need interaction every day, or every week, or every month, directly or indirectly. Some people don't. It's also okay to just be in the corner loving everyone from over there. If someone tries to peer pressure you into doing something you're not comfortable with, that is NOT A FRIEND! <3


=THX=
=Still having trouble?=
Thanks to ChatGPT for some basic guidelines xD!
*  Roll up your sleeves and check out: HELP! <B><U> [[Making Friends Is Difficult]]</B></U>
*  Read <B><U> [[How To Get People To Talk To Me More?]]  </B></U>
*  Also if you're gaming orientated...<B><U> [[What are friendship levels?]]</B>

Latest revision as of 21:00, 16 February 2026

TLDR To making friends guaranteed to work (with Mondo!)

  • YOU MAKE FRIENDS THROUGH OSMOSIS! Literally! SHOW UP OFTEN. EVEN IF YOU DONT TALK. Be present. People will notice you. People will talk to you. If you don't talk, it may take quite awhile, be patient! The more you talk and show up, the more popular you will be. I promise. Thats the #1 secret...


  • INSERT YOURSELF INTO THE CONVERSATION! Even if you're a mute. You can still do textbox, ASL, body language, etc. This may be taboo IRL but it is PREFERRED in VR! This might help? Also if you're autistic this might be a good read.
  • I hate the cliché, but BE YOSELF. LET THEM TITTIES BE FREE! (Wholesomely of course)
  • BE NICE & CONSIDERATE! Don't talk over others when they're talking, and give the other people a chance to talk. Say the thing you wanna say when there's a pause in conversation. Help others when you can! Ask for help when you want/need it!
  • Respond OPENLY without making things awkward! Check out: How To Get People To Talk To Me More?
  • Be positive! Not toxically positive, but don't be a debbie downer! People like to be around people that are more upbeat!
  • Fake it til you make it. I hate this phrase. I also hate that it works.
  • Remember to post about YOURSELF before hopping in the deep end! Remember your friendship levels!



  • TLDR of the TLDR: The more we know about you, the more friends you'll get, so throw down all your interests (in the appropriate channels xD) [And be tactful about it in VC]
  • That's it. That's TL;DR how you make friends.


FRONTLOAD YOUR WEIRDNESS! (An article borrowed from Mark Manson)

​Stop trying to be "cool" to get people to like you. It’s a waste of time.


​When I met my wife, I spent our first five minutes in a loud nightclub at 3 AM explaining the nuances of Russian grammar. It was the least "smooth" move possible, but it was the most honest version of who I am. ​She didn’t leave. That’s how I knew.


​The Lesson

Most people spend the first six months of a relationship (or business partnership, friendship, etc) performing. They hide their quirks, polish their edges, and "play the game." in an attempt to not be "too much".


All they’re doing is delaying the inevitable.


​Why you should WANT be "too much" immediately:


​It’s a Filter: Anyone scared off by your intensity or your odd interests was never going to last anyway.


​No Maintenance: If you start with a performance, you have to keep performing. If you start as yourself, you’re already done.


​The Right People Stay: The goal isn't to be liked by everyone; it's to be found by the people who actually value your brand of crazy.


​The Bottom Line

It’s better to be disliked for who you are than liked for someone you’re pretending to be.


​Front Load your weird. The right people will stay.


Making Friends 101, a more formal guide (with Chatgpt!)

By following these tips, you can strengthen existing friendships and make new ones that are meaningful and fulfilling. There are many ways to make and develop close friendships. Remember friendship is a two-way street! Both you AND your friend need to BOTH give and take to have a successful relationship!

  • Be open and approachable: Smile and make eye contact with people you meet. This can help you seem more friendly and welcoming.
  • Show genuine interest in others: Ask questions and listen to what people have to say. This will help you build a connection with them.
  • Participate in activities you enjoy: Join clubs, organizations, or teams that align with your interests. This will give you the opportunity to meet people who share similar hobbies and passions.
  • Volunteer or get involved in your community: Not only will this help you meet new people, but it's also a great way to give back and make a positive impact on your community.
  • Be a good listener: Pay attention to what your friends have to say and show them that you value their thoughts and opinions.
  • Be reliable and dependable: Make an effort to follow through on your commitments and be there for your friends when they need you.
  • Show interest in your friends' lives: Ask your friends about their interests, families, and other aspects of their lives and show that you are genuinely interested in getting to know them better.
  • Be open and honest: Building trust is an important part of any close friendship. Be open and honest with your friends, and they will be more likely to do the same with you.
  • Make time for your friends: Nurture your friendships by setting aside time to spend with your friends, whether it's meeting up in person or simply chatting on the phone or online.
  • Pay attention to nonverbal cues: People's body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice can all give clues as to how they are feeling and what they are comfortable with. Paying attention to these cues can help you to respect others' boundaries.
  • Ask for consent: If you are unsure about whether it is okay to do something or share something with someone, ask for their consent. This can include asking for permission to give a hug, touch someone, or share personal information.
  • Respect others' privacy: Everyone has a right to privacy, and it is important to respect others' wishes when it comes to personal space and information.
  • Be mindful of others' feelings: Consider how your words and actions might affect others. If you think that something you are about to do or say might hurt someone's feelings, it might be best to avoid it.


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