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=Making Friends 101=
= TLDR To making friends guaranteed to work (with Mondo!)=
* YOU MAKE FRIENDS THROUGH OSMOSIS! Literally! SHOW UP OFTEN. EVEN IF YOU DONT TALK. Be present. People will notice you. People will talk to you. If you don't talk, it may take quite awhile, be patient! The more you talk and show up, the more popular you will be. I promise. Thats the #1 secret...




By following these tips, you can strengthen existing friendships and make new ones that are meaningful and fulfilling. There are many ways to make and develop close friendships.
* INSERT YOURSELF INTO THE CONVERSATION! Even if you're a mute. You can still do textbox, ASL, body language, etc. This may be taboo IRL but it is PREFERRED in VR! <B><U> [https://www.artoflikability.com/blog/how-to-properly-insert-yourself-into-a-conversation This might help?]</B></U>  Also <B><U> [https://www.reddit.com/r/AutismInWomen/comments/19dwk3q/trouble_inserting_self_in_conversations/ if you're autistic]</B></U>  this might be a good read.
* I hate the cliché, but BE YOSELF. LET THEM TITTIES BE FREE! (Wholesomely of course)
* BE NICE & CONSIDERATE! Don't talk over others when they're talking, and give the other people a chance to talk. Say the thing you wanna say when there's a pause in conversation. Help others when you can! Ask for help when you want/need it!
* Respond OPENLY without making things awkward! Check out: <B><U> [[How To Get People To Talk To Me More?]]  </B></U>
* Be positive! Not toxically positive, but don't be a debbie downer! People like to be around people that are more upbeat! Trauma dumping to a stranger who you want to make your friend will get you a guaranteed ghosting!
* Fake it 'til you make it. I hate this phrase. I also hate that it works.
* Remember to post about YOURSELF before hopping in the deep end of convos! Remember your <B><U> [[What are friendship levels?|friendship levels!]]</B></U>


*Be open and approachable: Smile and make eye contact with people you meet. This can help you seem more friendly and welcoming.


*Show genuine interest in others: Ask questions and listen to what people have to say. This will help you build a connection with them.


*Participate in activities you enjoy: Join clubs, organizations, or teams that align with your interests. This will give you the opportunity to meet people who share similar hobbies and passions.


*Volunteer or get involved in your community: Not only will this help you meet new people, but it's also a great way to give back and make a positive impact on your community.
* TLDR of the TLDR: The more we know about you, the more friends you'll get, so throw down all your interests (in the appropriate channels xD) [And be tactful about it in VC]
* That's it. That's TL;DR how you make friends.


*Be a good listener: Pay attention to what your friends have to say and show them that you value their thoughts and opinions.


*Be reliable and dependable: Make an effort to follow through on your commitments and be there for your friends when they need you.
=FRONTLOAD YOUR WEIRDNESS! (An article borrowed from Mark Manson)=
​Stop trying to be "cool" to get people to like you. It’s a waste of time.


*Show interest in your friends' lives: Ask your friends about their interests, families, and other aspects of their lives and show that you are genuinely interested in getting to know them better.


*Be open and honest: Building trust is an important part of any close friendship. Be open and honest with your friends, and they will be more likely to do the same with you.
​When I met my wife, I spent our first five minutes in a loud nightclub at 3 AM explaining the nuances of Russian grammar. It was the least "smooth" move possible, but it was the most honest version of who I am.
​She didn’t leave. That’s how I knew.


*Make time for your friends: Nurture your friendships by setting aside time to spend with your friends, whether it's meeting up in person or simply chatting on the phone or online.


==​The Lesson==
Most people spend the first six months of a relationship (or business partnership, friendship, etc)  performing.  They hide their quirks, polish their edges, and "play the game." in an attempt to not be "too much".


="If everywhere you go it smells like shit, maybe it's time to check your own shoes."=
If you are experiencing a consistent unpleasant smell wherever you go, it might be a good idea to take a look at your own belongings or surroundings to see if there is something that could be causing the odor. It is always a good idea to take personal responsibility for our own actions and surroundings, and to consider whether there might be something that we can do to improve the situation.


*Focus on being a kind and genuine person. If there are aspects of your behavior or personality that are causing difficulties in your relationships with others, it might be helpful to consider making some changes. Here are a few things you can try:
All they’re doing is delaying the inevitable.


*Reflect on your behavior: Think about how your actions and words might be affecting the way others perceive you. Are there things you can do differently in order to be more likable?


*Practice empathy: Try to put yourself in other people's shoes and consider how your actions might impact them. This can help you be more understanding and considerate of others.
​Why you should WANT be "too much" immediately:


*Communicate openly and honestly: If you're having trouble connecting with others, try being more open and honest about your thoughts and feelings. This can help build trust and understanding in your relationships.


*Seek feedback: Ask a trusted friend or family member for their honest opinion about how you can improve your relationships with others. They may have insights that can help you make positive changes.
​It’s a Filter: Anyone scared off by your intensity or your odd interests was never going to last anyway.
 
 
​No Maintenance: If you start with a performance, you have to keep performing. If you start as yourself, you’re already done.
 
 
​The Right People Stay: The goal isn't to be liked by everyone; it's to be found by the people who actually value your brand of crazy.
 
 
==​The Bottom Line==
It’s better to be disliked for who you are than liked for someone you’re pretending to be.
 
 
​Front Load your weird. The right people will stay.
 
 
=Still having trouble?=
*  Roll up your sleeves and check out: HELP! <B><U> [[Making Friends Is Difficult]]</B></U>
*  Read <B><U> [[How To Get People To Talk To Me More?]]  </B></U>
*  Also if you're gaming orientated...<B><U> [[What are friendship levels?]]</B>

Latest revision as of 06:28, 1 July 2026

TLDR To making friends guaranteed to work (with Mondo!)

  • YOU MAKE FRIENDS THROUGH OSMOSIS! Literally! SHOW UP OFTEN. EVEN IF YOU DONT TALK. Be present. People will notice you. People will talk to you. If you don't talk, it may take quite awhile, be patient! The more you talk and show up, the more popular you will be. I promise. Thats the #1 secret...


  • INSERT YOURSELF INTO THE CONVERSATION! Even if you're a mute. You can still do textbox, ASL, body language, etc. This may be taboo IRL but it is PREFERRED in VR! This might help? Also if you're autistic this might be a good read.
  • I hate the cliché, but BE YOSELF. LET THEM TITTIES BE FREE! (Wholesomely of course)
  • BE NICE & CONSIDERATE! Don't talk over others when they're talking, and give the other people a chance to talk. Say the thing you wanna say when there's a pause in conversation. Help others when you can! Ask for help when you want/need it!
  • Respond OPENLY without making things awkward! Check out: How To Get People To Talk To Me More?
  • Be positive! Not toxically positive, but don't be a debbie downer! People like to be around people that are more upbeat! Trauma dumping to a stranger who you want to make your friend will get you a guaranteed ghosting!
  • Fake it 'til you make it. I hate this phrase. I also hate that it works.
  • Remember to post about YOURSELF before hopping in the deep end of convos! Remember your friendship levels!



  • TLDR of the TLDR: The more we know about you, the more friends you'll get, so throw down all your interests (in the appropriate channels xD) [And be tactful about it in VC]
  • That's it. That's TL;DR how you make friends.


FRONTLOAD YOUR WEIRDNESS! (An article borrowed from Mark Manson)

​Stop trying to be "cool" to get people to like you. It’s a waste of time.


​When I met my wife, I spent our first five minutes in a loud nightclub at 3 AM explaining the nuances of Russian grammar. It was the least "smooth" move possible, but it was the most honest version of who I am. ​She didn’t leave. That’s how I knew.


​The Lesson

Most people spend the first six months of a relationship (or business partnership, friendship, etc) performing. They hide their quirks, polish their edges, and "play the game." in an attempt to not be "too much".


All they’re doing is delaying the inevitable.


​Why you should WANT be "too much" immediately:


​It’s a Filter: Anyone scared off by your intensity or your odd interests was never going to last anyway.


​No Maintenance: If you start with a performance, you have to keep performing. If you start as yourself, you’re already done.


​The Right People Stay: The goal isn't to be liked by everyone; it's to be found by the people who actually value your brand of crazy.


​The Bottom Line

It’s better to be disliked for who you are than liked for someone you’re pretending to be.


​Front Load your weird. The right people will stay.


Still having trouble?

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